Do Not Wait

by Fr. John Clote  |  05/08/2026  |  Weekly Reflection

When a loved one is seriously ill or nearing death, families often feel an understandable hesitation about calling a priest too soon. It can feel like admitting defeat or even causing alarm. But in the life of the Church, inviting a priest in those final moments is not about giving up-it is about giving grace. Waiting too long can unintentionally deprive our loved one of one of the most profound gifts available to them: the sacraments at the hour when they are most needed.

The Anointing of the Sick is not only for the very last breath; it is meant for anyone in serious illness or danger of death. Along with this sacrament, the priest can offer Confession and Holy Communion. These are not symbolic gestures. They are real encounters with Christ, bringing forgiveness, strength, peace, and preparation for the passage into eternal life. When received consciously, even if only briefly, they can bring immense spiritual consolation. One of the most common regrets priests hear from families is, "We should have called sooner." In many cases, by the time the call is made, the person is already unconscious or unable to participate. In addition, calling at the very last moment can create practical difficulties-there may not be a priest immediately available, or he may not be able to arrive in time. What was meant to be a moment of grace can quickly become a moment of urgency and regret. While the Church still entrusts them to God's mercy, something deeply personal is lost when the sacraments cannot be received with awareness and intention, or at all.

Calling a priest early does not hasten death; it sanctifies the time that remains. It allows space for prayer, reconciliation, and even moments of unexpected clarity or peace. It also gives the family a chance to gather not just in grief, but in hope-placing their loved one into God's hands with trust. In moments like these, it is better to call a little too soon than a moment too late. The priest does not come as a sign that death has already won, but as a witness that Christ is present, even here, even now-offering mercy, dignity, and the promise of eternal life.

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